lately i am having an obsession with how our society ended up the way it is. especially how society tells us we are supposed to “love”. apparently we are supposed to get married and stick to these vows despite anything. some countries even dictate which gender you will legally be allowed to marry.
but is marriage natural?
should or can we realistically be happy in a monogamous relationship for the rest of our lives? or are we supposed to be remain unhappy but loyal to our spouse as we are bound to the vows we made years ago when we were both different people?
i have a boyfriend, we have been going out for over a year now and I can honestly say I love him (lots & lots) but I don't think I will be able to physically promise to him (or any other person) that i will feel the exact same for them in the next ten years or for the rest of our lives. It’s not just because i’m scared of commitment or because society would probably say to me “well maybe he’s not ‘the one’ ". It’s because i believe no one can truly
stick to this promise.
People change, relationships change, circumstances change.
And that’s ok.
Society needs to stop focusing on divorce rates or wedding percentages, it needs to concentrate on the happiness of our population, the happiness of our next door neighbors, the real happiness of our best friend and the happiness of our partners at that time.
Marriage is a lovely idea but times have moved on and perhaps this idealistic lifestyle isn’t so
ideal anymore
